May
11

Is sport for pre-school children a good thing?

The last thing young children need is another activity to cram in to their already busy schedules. In this day of technology, shouldn’t parents just get them home to watch TV, play a computer games or send an email? To chill out !

Luckily (in hindsight) my parents were very keen for me to get in to sport from a very young age and I fondly remember making frequent trips down the local rugby and football clubs to watch and then later play. I was exposed to the key morals and discipline that comes hand in hand with sport; learning to work as a team, responsibility, independence and of course friendship.

It also introduced me to competition. Competition in young children can be seen as a negative, but it is one of life’s core lessons. Controlled competition is healthy but it must be said that the ‘win at all costs’ approach is destructive. Rugby specifically teaches children, even from a very young age, to respect their opponents with the obligatory “three cheers” and handshakes all round.

And let’s not forget the key ingredient for all this; health.

In a recent NHS survey, doctors found 17% of boys and 16% of girls aged between 12 and 15 are classed as either overweight or obese – these figures in my mind are far too high.

It’s claimed that nearly three quarters of children are not getting the recommended 60 minutes of daily activity outside of school. By gently introducing sport to young children those statistics can be radically improved.

I can’t put it better than sports psychologist and Clinical Assistant Professor at the NYU Child Study Centrein America:

“Research has shown that sport contributes to psychological well-being by reducing anxiety and depression and enhancing self-esteem. In sport, kids find a social milieu that can promote a spirit of social interaction, cooperation and friendship. Sport helps kids think critically and solve problems, build self-discipline, trust, respect for others, leadership and coping skills, all of which form the foundation of character building. Sport has also been shown to improve academic and occupational outcomes, lower school dropout and deter delinquency. And, of course, sport develops the mind/body connection by strengthening the body and training the mind to use it for action and reaction.”

And all this is gained in a watertight safety conscious environment.

Is sport for pre-school children a good thing?

Hard to say ‘no’.  Tell us what you think and what sports activities your kids are involved in

From guest blogger: Luke Walden  Munchkin Sports Ltd   www.munchkinsportsltd.com

Apr
26

Does your pre-teen have a Facebook page?

It’s all too easy for 11 / 12 ‘somethings’ to want to be part of the social network scene – why? – because their peers do and it appears it’s the way most now communicate. I wonder why that is – I know technology is second nature to kids nowadays but how sad it is that they are losing the art of just talking to each other.

I asked one teenager what was so special about social media  - her reply was that ‘you always knew what your friends were doing and thinking cos they changed their status on BBM or tweeted / shouted on Facebook – its just easy to be connected!’ She then confessed that ‘sometimes its easier to say things onscreen rather than face to face – it can be less embarrassing and at least you think they are listening ‘

Not only are kids losing the ability to be truthful in front of each other but they are living the fantasy of thinking they have friends cos they are seeing Facebook shouts, BBMs etc which are non specific.

Tim Loughton, the Children’s Minister, accused mothers and fathers of “aiding and abetting” pre-teens to open accounts on the social networking site.

Mr Loughton, who has three teenage children, said parents had a responsibility to monitor youngsters online, adding: “Having a Facebook page, you should be at least 13 to do that. That is not legally enforceable.

“We know, and I know from personal experience, the temptations for younger children to set up a Facebook site and get involved with those social media.

“And I also know that in too many cases they do that aided and abetted by parents. So it’s not just a question of giving information to parents, it’s making sure parents are acting responsibly on behalf of their children too.”

As a start take a look at Childalert’s Facebook Parenting tips

Apr
20

Girl aged 6 handcuffed and put in cell !

What do you do when your child is having a tantrum ?  How do you control it, stop it?

Most mothers know the signs, the triggers and have a way to resolve it, but not before you cringe with embarrassment.

Most children’s tantrums die down as they get older but every so often even my 13 year old will lose her sense of humor and throw a tantrum.

Usually tantrums are a way of expressing, what the child believes is a profound sense of injustice.

They usually are expressed in an environment of safety – where the child feels secure and with whom they feel safe.

However a little girl six has been handcuffed by police and thrown in a jail cell in the US after throwing a tantrum at school.

According to a police report, the child allegedly knocked over a small shelf which hit the principal in the leg, injuring her.

She also jumped on a paper shredder and tried to break a glass frame.

The school called in the police and an officer handcuffed the young girl when she refused to calm down.

She was taken down to the police station where she was charged with simple assault and damage to property.

What did they think they were doing?

Why wasn’t the teacher able to take control ?

What was wrong with simply calming and listening, finding common ground with the little girl?

The little girl probably just needed a cuddle – but health and safety say you cannot touch or show affection to children in your care.

The world’s gone mad.  What do you think?  I blame the teacher.

see childalert’s tantrum tips

Mar
23

What time do your children go to bed ?

We have a very strict routine in our household – bedtime for all our children(they range from 6-13) during the week is by 8 pm – they should try to sleep which mostly they do or otherwise read.

Not only de we believe children need a good nights sleep but we need an evening!

It seems logical that children who have to get up early and are engaged in busy school timetables should have down time away from each other and hopefully a good nights sleep.

Sleep guidelines for children suggest up to 12 + hours sleep a night -

2 to 3 years 10.5 to 12.5 hours; 4 to 5 years 12 hours; 6 years 11.5 hours; 7 to 11 years 9.5 to 11.5 hours

A report out today however is showing children going to bed as late at 11.30 and expecting to be up and bright by 8 am the following morning.

Dr Pat Spungin, child psychologist and family life specialist, said: “I agree there is very little information available to parents about the importance of a good night’s sleep. Parents should be concerned about the effects of sleep deprivation on their children, as lack of sleep has a negative effect on a child’s mood, concentration and attention. Research also shows that children who are sleep deprived do less well academically, show more problem behaviour and have lower levels of social skills.

“Scientific evidence shows that adequate night-time sleep is just as important as healthy eating and regular exercise for children to develop.’

Here are some tips to help you:

1. Establish a regular time for bed each night and do not vary from it

2. Create a relaxing bedtime routine, give your child a warm bath or shower

3. Make bedtime fun – read your child a story

4. Do not give your child any food or drinks with caffeine prior to bedtime

5. Avoid giving your child a large meal before bedtime

6. Make after dinner playtime a relaxing time as too much activity close to bedtime can keep children awake

7. Exercise should be included in your child’s day to help them sleep well

8. There should be no TV or music playing while your child is going to sleep

9. Ensure the temperature in the bedroom is comfortable

10. Make sure the noise level in the house is low

Mar
16

Schools say they want to build strong partnerships with parents …

A primary school in the North of England held a football match with another school – all players were 7 and 8 year olds keen to show off their skills to their parents.

However, as the mums and dads began to arrive they were asked for identification and if they had none the schools health and safety, ruled that they could not attend.

The match was played behind closed doors. “ we do not want unsupervised strangers wandering on the premises “

Quite rightly one parent shouted “It’s outrageous. I cant see for the life of me how this is about health and safety – if a child gets hurt the first thing they do is make a beeline for their mother or father”

What do you think?  Have we finally gone too far?

Feb
01

Toddler development classes…is there any point? Dr Lin Day says yes.

I have to confess I have always wondered whether going to playgroups or ‘baby gyms’ made any sense – other than give exhausted and socially isolated mums an opportunity to commiserate with others.

According to Dr Lin Day, the founder of Baby Sensory, the baby development classes, they do. This is why, on top of the very successful baby classes, the company is also running Toddler Sense programme.

“Toddlers need to be with other children in order to learn important social skills such as negotiation, turn-taking and cooperation, which form the foundations for cooperative play and relationship building. Even though toddlers do not cooperate, share or make friends until their fourth year, if they have been given plenty of opportunities to play with other children, they will be at an advantage when they go to toddler group or preschool,” the company says.

I can only agree with that. How is a child who has spent the first four years of his life just with his parents going to cope at school? Learning key diplomacy skills from a young age can only be good to mingle with other equally “un-cooperative” creatures at school.

“Toddlers also need structure and a regular routine. Both give toddlers a sense of organisation, stability, comfort and personal control. In a Toddler Sense class, exercise and group play form an important part of the structure and daily routine. The first part of the session involves free-flow adventure play, which offers endless opportunities for exploration, problem-solving and imaginative thinking. Toddlers are encouraged to crawl through tunnels, bounce, climb or clamber over the equipment. They decide what interests them the most and how they will explore the equipment. Adventurers (18 – 36 months) put the equipment away after use, which builds self-esteem and confidence and keeps them busy and stimulated”.

So basically they run till they are exhausted – and, hopefully, that means they’ll sleep better at night – and then TIDY UP!!! Nice one…

“Free-flow play in the adventure area is followed by structured group activities which build the skills that toddlers need for healthy brain development. Activities may include hide-and-seek, music and movement, action songs, rhymes, dance, clapping and patting games, drawing and colouring, puppet shows, parachute activities, football, treasure hunts and interaction with soft toys.”

The sessions aim at being interactive: “Throughout the session, parents join in with the fun and offer toddlers support, praise and encouragement.”

And what about having a cup of tea instead?

Because: “spending time with them raises their self-esteem and emotional security and equips them to handle moments of frustration and anger”.

Well, ok, forget the cup of tea then, if Dr Lin Day says so….

For more information about sensory classes, click here

And for ideas about entertaining young children and turn them into happy, confident and sociable individuals, visit childalert’s website:

Feb
11

Tales of a ‘culture starved’ generation: should school be the only place to learn about art?

Do you rely on school to teach your offspring about Picasso, Monet or Van Gogh? Have you ever taken them to the museum, the cinema, or the theatre? If not, then they could be amongst the millions of a new ‘culture starved’ generation of British children who have never been to an art gallery, theatre or stage show.

A according to new research carried out among 2,000 parents of five to12 year-olds throughout the UK, four in 10 children have never seen the inside of an art gallery, while 17 per cent haven’t visited a museum with their parents.

The research, which was commissioned by Visit Birmingham, also revealed that a quarter of children haven’t been to the theatre, while six in 10 have never heard or been to a classical music concert.

One in 10 kids hasn’t even left their home town to visit other sites in the UK.

And half of parents admit they make little effort to educate their children on culture or history, relying on schools to do so.

Instead, a third say they rely on schools to take full responsibility for sight-seeing trips and educational visits to local attractions

When questioned on why they make no effort to make their children more ‘cultured’ and knowledgeable about past history, a fifth of parents claim their offspring simply wouldn’t be interested.

A further 26 per cent claim they can’t afford to visit attractions, while 28 per cent don’t have the time to go trekking up and down the country.

A fifth of parents refer again to the fact that the children learn everything they need to know about culture and history at school. Well, that’s wishful thinking I’d say….

Tell us what you think?

 

Feb
11

Aren’t the government’s plans to offer loans to help with childcare costs totally rubbish?

hildcare costs are severely denting the budget of millions of parents, but I don’t find the latest government proposals helpful. In fact, I find the plans to offer parents of pre-school children loans of up to £10,000 to pay for childcare absolutely outrageous. These loans would be paid for at an interest rate of 3 per cent above inflation, taken straight from the parent’s taxable income. If the loan starts at £10,000 in 2012, what will it look like in 2, or even 10 years time when you take into account interest payments and inflation? These loans would put already-struggling parents into even more debt

Polling for the Social Market Foundation, which has put forward the proposals, shows 55 per cent of parents say childcare is too expensive (by the way ONLY 55%, that surprises me when a full-time place at nursery in a big city would set you back around £1000 a month PER CHILD…)

The solution is not to offer a loan but to subsidise childcare, or create nursery places at an earlier age. Yes it would cost a fair bit of money – especially at a time when the government is drastically implementing budget cuts.

But think about the millions of women who have to give up work to look after their children because they cannot afford childcare. Millions of clever, able, hard-working women who cannot contribute as much to the economy and have to stay at home because it’s makes no sense to work when all their salary is used up for childcare. High childcare costs are discriminatory to women.

I know many people think it is a ‘lifestyle choice’ to have children and therefore associated costs have to be paid by parents but if you follow that reasoning, if some of us stopped reproducing on behalf of others, the world would be, well, empty.

What do you think?

 

Mar
12

The Forgotten Baby Syndrome

The ‘Forgotten baby syndrome’ is becoming a serious worry as mothers are busy juggling family, home and work! ?

It seems unthinkable – accidentally leaving your baby for hours, but lots of busy parents do it with devastating consequences

Karen, a professional devoted mum goes on trial today for the murder of her baby son who she left alone in a hot car for over 7 hours! He died of heatstroke.

‘Karen drove a short distance to work, planning to drop her son off at nursery on the way. At around 4pm, she returned home. There, she received a panicked phone call from her husband. He was at the nursery to pick Ryan up. But Ryan wasn’t there.

In that split second, Karen’s world imploded. She realised she’d done something unimaginably awful. She sprinted to her car in the driveway and found her beloved baby, still strapped into his seat in the back. Karen, described by all who know her as a wonderful and caring mother, had forgotten to drop her son off at nursery. He’d been left in a searingly hot car for more than seven hours.

Despite frantic attempts to resuscitate him, Ryan died from heatstroke’.

Today, Karen goes on trial in America accused of murder and child neglect. If convicted, she could face a maximum prison sentence of 40 years.

Her husband, who is standing by her — as are their friends and extended family — says the murder charge is outrageous. He says it was a tragic accident, an inexplicable, inexcusable mistake — but not a crime. Furthermore, Karen is in a living hell. Accidentally killing your own baby is a lifelong sentence far greater than any a court could ever deliver.

What do you think ? Do you have any sympathy?

Have you ever forgotton your baby somewhere because you have just had too many things on your mind?

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